Do we have the BDSM choice?

It’s only as adults that we become defensive about our fantasies – especially those that excite us sexually. We’re told repeatedly that being turned on by sexual fantasies is somehow not well… normal. We have no choice but to keep our fantasies secret, let our friends, our intimates, think us weird.

But we do have a choice. Many ordinary everyday people discover that they can share their fantasies – that other good, decent people have “shameful” secrets much like our own!

Too many people though, still feel they have to hide their most intimate imaginings. Who do you dare talk to about something as “far out” as erotic fantasy? What kind of people actually like “that kind of thing”, and where do you find them? How can you be sure you won’t offend someone, get hurt, or make a fool of yourself? How can you do “those” things safely, with someone like you?

Most often, when people first explore BDSM, they usually want to try out the sensations of spanking. It is usually accomplished with the bare hand and usually over-the-knee (“OTK”) or in the bed. But when the spanker starts to hurt almost as much as the spankee! He or she wants some respite. Or the insatiable “lead-bottom” wants more, and more and … as you know, the average hand is full of small, delicate bones and only lightly padded. The average butt is round and has big bones under the surface. This is the one of the main reasons for adding implements to the play.

Paddles

A paddle is a wooden instrument with a long, flat face and narrow neck, existing in various sizes and dimensions, used to administer corporal punishment to the buttocks, especially in North America. It is rarely found in the rest of the English-speaking world, where the same purpose is typically served by a rattan cane  For novices, play-at-homes and just about everyone, the Paddle is the easiest and most convenient implement to use. It is small enough for over-the-knee positions, is firm enough to be accurate, and is effective in many different shapes, designs and materials. Usually it is broad, has a handle of some kind and the “business end” is either round or square.

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